If you haven’t read the candid comments Rory McIlroy made in Dubai about his gut-wrenching back-nine collapse at the Masters, it’s a must-read. I’ve always been amazed and impressed with Rory’s down-to-earth and affable attitude, along with his honest and thoughtful answers (he doesn’t give “Tiger” pressers). No, it’s not an act when you see him on camera. He’s genuine and isn’t afraid to speak his mind even if it sometimes gets him in trouble.
When I first met Rory in person this past March at the Honda Classic, I was shocked at his pleasant and approachable demeanor after making three double-bogeys in three of the last four holes in the third round. He was even-par through 14 and then he reached the treacherous Bear Trap. Usually when a player has a finish like Rory, you steer clear and tread carefully. Even my good friends I’d grown up with wouldn’t have been that friendly. That’s just Rory, though.
I awkwardly tried to make a joke as he recapped the double-bogeys. Later that day, when I admitted to feeling awkward, he reassured me that I didn’t have to worry about that with him. It’s true — whether Rory posts a 63 or 80, he does his best to answer questions patiently and honestly. Which is refreshing, especially from a star like himself. After just a year covering and traveling with the Tour, I noticed that many guys who vowed at the beginning of their rookie years to never change, didn’t keep their word. (GO here for the post I wrote back in March.)
“I have always said I will try to answer questions honestly,” he says. “I don’t want to change that about myself. I think people appreciate that about me.”
No doubt. I know he’s still young and there’s plenty of time for him to become jaded, but I don’t believe he’ll ever change. At least I hope not because he’s one of the rare guys you’ll run into who won’t give you a PR-y answer.
Back to Rory’s recent comments in Dubai about “The year he grew up.” He confessed he felt like crying after pulling his drive into Rae’s Creek on the 13th, but it wasn’t until he spoke with his parents the following day that he actually wept, according to the Guardian‘s Lawrence Donegan. (Though the US Open champ certainly looked like he was about to break down in tears after three-putting the 12th.)
“I definitely felt like crying because the drive on the 13th was the one that took all my chances away,” he says. “But I didn’t actually cry until the next morning, when I spoke to my mum and dad. I spoke to them before I went to the airport on the Monday. My mum might have said something like: ‘Oh don’t worry Rory, everything will be OK,’ and I just blubbed back: ‘No, it won’t be OK!’ It was one of those things. There were so many thoughts and emotions going through my head. At the time it felt like the only chance I would have of winning at Augusta and I blew it.
“When did I last cry over golf? I dunno – when I was kid, probably. It’s not worth crying over, is it? It’s only a game.”
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“On that Sunday of the Masters I remember turning on ESPN to find people talking about me. I switched over to the Golf Channel and people were talking about me. It was hard to escape. Greg Norman said something to me afterwards that stuck; that any outside influence you let into your bubble can be detrimental, even if it’s just an article in a newspaper. You have to have a lot of self-discipline not to read and watch anything about yourself but that’s what I will try to do from now on.”
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“Part of the motivation I had [at the US Open] was trying to prove something to myself, that I wasn’t one of those players who crumbles under the pressure, who folds, or chokes. I hate using the word choke but that’s exactly what happened at the Masters. I also wanted to prove people wrong, whether it was the media or just critics in general. I wanted to show them that the person they saw on Sunday at Augusta was not the real Rory McIlroy.”
Yes, he used the “C” word, one that most pros would never dare utter. He can admit to mistakes off the golf course, too:
Regrets? He had few this year but almost too few to mention. “Probably what I said to Jay Townsend,” he concedes. “I got a bit carried away there. I would have still have had a go at him but I would have phrased it differently. But overall I feel the decisions I have made have been good for me.”
And then there’s his relationship with Caroline Wozniacki, the women’s world No. 1 tennis player. The two superstars started dating not long after McIlroy won the U.S. Open. Rory isn’t afraid to express his feelings for her, whereas many guys wouldn’t admit to the same in public.
“This is going to sound cheesy, but meeting Caroline is probably the best thing that’s happened to me off the course,” he says without embarrassment. “It’s nice to go out with someone who shares your sense of ambition. A tennis career is much shorter so they have to put everything into it. She definitely works harder than I do, and that has been a great influence on my career.”
Don’t ever change, Rory. Please. We need more stars like you.


December 19th, 2011 on 11:03 pm
Rory has changed, he’s changed agents, girlfriends, tours and primary country of residence. When was the last time he posted a slightly off tweet?
Sorry, I’m more skeptical than Stephanie, I see this as his I’m still the nice boy you like, but I’m a serious adult now, image makeover.
December 19th, 2011 on 11:15 pm
Shoshana, good point…I think he has changed a bit, more swagger and confidence etc but it’s impossible not to and I don’t think it is a bad thing. I mean he hasn’t changed in terms if being honest and approachable.
December 20th, 2011 on 12:22 am
I think it’s impossible not to change as well, and I just want to be able to appreciate him as a golfer. I don’t need to believe he’s the worlds most awesome/perfect/nice 22yo male, because well, I just don’t believe it (and I don’t care).
December 20th, 2011 on 1:58 am
@Shoshana – if there is one thing that Woods taught us, it is to be skeptical.
Skepticism is healthy. I think your stance on this is a good one.
December 20th, 2011 on 2:51 am
@shoshana, i’m forming my opinions on rory based on my various interactions with him throughout the year. that’s great you just care about his golf, but he’s also a human being and it’s refreshing when an athlete comes around who actually behaves like one, too.
and @marky mark, please don’t compare rory to tiger. those two guys are as different as night and day.
i’ve learned to be skeptical, too, but there’s a huge part of me that remains optimistic and even if that means getting disappointed by people, i’d rather try to see (and hope for) the good in others because sometimes — perhaps not often — people will really surprise you.
December 20th, 2011 on 9:52 am
@Stephanie They all act like human beings, but humans have different personalities, and some are more and less comfortable letting media into certain parts than others.
They are all though also trying to sell themselves. I take the good things they all do (event Tiger), as positives, and am unsurprised by the bad.
December 20th, 2011 on 3:14 pm
I should clarify and say a “little bit” of skepticism is healthly. Certainly Rory is nohwere near being in the Pantheon of Woods, Kobe Bryant, Barry Bonds etc when it comes to extraciriccular behavior and I think that the odds are very remote that he ever will be. However, the big names all do PR for the sake of maximizing endorsement income, and skepticism helps to counter some of this nonsense.
December 21st, 2011 on 1:14 am
Steph,
I hope when you take over the world of sports journalism and have a list of best-sellers under your belt you’ll still be down to earth and not above interacting with your readers.
Just kidding…stories like this are interesting and why I look forward to your stuff.
Keep up the fantastic work.
December 28th, 2011 on 6:38 am
@Jason, thanks for the kind words. Don’t think I’ll ever write a best seller, but that’s a nice thought! And I’d never be above interacting with readers. i feel bad that I don’t have time to interact more!
December 22nd, 2011 on 7:03 pm
I think Rory’s attitude is refreshing. He may change a bit as he gets older but lets hope he doesn’t change for the worse.
Golf needs personalities like Rory in the game.
December 22nd, 2011 on 9:55 pm
Agreed that we need more start like Rory. Golfers, as a whole, are more approachable and nicer to be around than other athletes (except maybe hockey players) and Rory is a great example. I agree, Steph … hope he can stay that way.
Merry Christmas!!
December 23rd, 2011 on 11:19 pm
Raes Creek is NOT on #13, that’s a tributary of Raes Creek called Jones Creek if I’m not mistaken. Anyhow, Raes is on #12. Sorry, just a pet peeve of mine!!!!